People Over Process

People over Process

Do you want to be a star? Someone who is a sparkling speck of celebrity? Someone who can tip off the stage and be swept around the arena on the hands of raving fans?

Here’s the secret: Always, keep People over Process.

Think about it. Process is created for efficiency. People are created for growth. As soon as an individual grows, the process no longer fits the occasion. The rules must change to reflect the new person.

POP: How many definitions come to mind? A father figure is a POP. There’s snap, crackle, and POP. Maybe it’s the sound at the beginning of a race. Or, it might be the crack of a whip. Sweet to the taste is a soda. Pick your favorite, to remember, People over Process.

How do we build relationships with People? Let’s use just a little bit of Process to break down the word and discover the steps up to the stage of becoming a bonafide PEOPLE star.

Present ~ Be present. When given the opportunity of another person, be with them.

Enlighten ~ Think light. Be bright, lead the way, and most importantly, give warmth.

Open ~ Be vulnerable. Put a little skin in the game and get prepared to be bruised.

Powerful ~ Offer the very best in sacrifice of time and resources for the benefit of others.

Listen ~ Stories are the channels to deeply connect and experience the flow of a soul.

Enjoy ~ The talk and walk are less important than the music and dance. Feel it!

Now, the final question, “Do we need a stage on which to perform?”

Yes, and No.

No, in the sense, that we hone our gift in the garages and basements of life. We work diligently with a select few, out of sight and out of mind, until our talent is ready for presentation to the whole wide world.

Yes, in the sense, that we must be visible to offer our best to the most. We climb high to project our songs to many. Guaranteed – by choice, or fate – each of us will, eventually, tip off of that stage.

And — when we do, we will know whether we have kept People over Process.

There will be the POP of a body hitting the ground, or the POP of fingers keeping time to the chorus of voices from adoring fans, as we are carried in loving arms to a place of safety.

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Super Will

Super WillIs it possible to be so strong that others perceive weakness; or, to project an image of strength, while actually being weak?

All words are understood, only, in the context of semantics; the individual definitions are gleaned from our personal, unique, educations and experiences. Words like “strong” and “weak” have an extra measure of value, because our feelings are associated with them.

We have memories of “strong” and “weak” people who influenced our lives. Over a period of time, those individuals “flew their flags” to display their true colors. Eventually, we came to understand what was at their core: From the abundance of their heart, by word and deed, they made it crystal clear.

The individuals of strong character were patient, kind, generous, honest, humble, happy, protective, trusting, hopeful, and eternally optimistic.

The individuals of weak character were jealous, envious, boastful, proud, rude, demanding, irritable, resentful, unforgiving, unjust, and generally pessimistic.

As we consider those two sets of words, the emotion of each is palpable. First set of feelings: Warm, fuzzy, soft and easy. Second set of feelings: Cold, prickly, inflexible and hard. A demonstrative epitome of the expression: Hard is easy; Easy is hard.

What is the secret of the strong individuals who offer their, very, best to all? Why are they the heroes of Steel and Velvet? On the outside, they give us the warm fuzzies all over; on the inside, they are of absolute resolve. Answer: At their core is the, sheer, power of will.

Want-To
Intelligence
Latitude
Longitude

Want-To

Beyond the day-dreaming and fantasies, which entertain us all, strong individuals know what they want, what they like, what they will allow, and what they need to do in reaching goals. For them, a goal achieved is just a platform to launch another endeavor. They adopt phrases like “Pedal-through” and “Step-by-step” to give homage to their conviction of constant innovation and growth.

Intelligence

This is much more than simple Mental intelligence. There are smart people, with a plethora of capital-letter abbreviations behind their names, who have little common sense. Strong individuals work to develop additional facets of wholeness: Physical intelligence of health and endurance; Emotional intelligence of awareness and insight; and, Spiritual intelligence of gratitude and openness.

Latitude

Go left, or right, far enough around our globe named Earth and a circle is made. Wherever we go, there we are. Strong individuals know themselves better than anyone else and welcome the uniqueness of others. They quickly move to meet and serve individuals at the point of opportunity. As masters of their crafts, they freely give of their wisdom. Knowing for a certainty, “What goes around comes around.”

Longitude

The cycles and seasons of life are offered in undulating waves of Up and Down. Strong individuals wrap their arms around the variety, which is the spice of life. The crest of a peak brings with it the down-hill coast to a valley and the opportunity for a pedal back up to the top. Through it all, they raise their eyes to the horizon and lift their spirits to the heavens for the inspiration to know the right things to do.

There is, always, more than meets the eye. Still waters run deep and it is impossible to judge books by their covers. Give people time to be heard and understood. Offer to them the, very, best in word and deed; so, they can hear and understand the real you.

What we see is less important than who we be!

At the exact spot of the intersecting lines of Longitude and Latitude will be individuals of supreme Intelligence with the Want-To of sharing their abundance with the universe!

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School of Thought

Creative BrainAsking the right Question is much more important than having all of the right Answers.

At one time in the recent past, the Question: “What is found at the end of freight trains?” was deserving of the Answer: “Caboose”.

For one generation, that fond memory is now an antique safely archived in Railroad museums.

For our current, high-tech, digital generation, the Text message of curiosity to their friends to ask for an explanation might be in the form of “Cab—what???”

Question: Why, then, do our formal programs of education test for a finite answer to a limited set of questions?

Answer: It is big business to sell the dysfunctional idea that one person has the answer to another’s question.

As a result, we have several generations of gifted and talented individuals waiting to receive guidance for their lives from a clueless academia. No one has the right answers for anyone, else. At best, our educators might be brave enough to explore what is right for one person, themselves.

It is the height of arrogance for anyone to believe they have all of the answers. The most important facets of life cannot be explained by mere mortals. The answers discovered, today, for yesterday’s questions are guaranteed to be wrong for the new opportunities of tomorrow.

Since we learn by doing and the fun is in the doing, let’s focus on having fun as we learn. The journey to the choice of our individual destinations begins, right here, right now.

In fact, the secret to asking Questions is inherent in the discipline to practice the ABC‘s.

Attitude:  Whether we think we can, or can’t, we’re right. As a creative genius with an 8th Grade formal education, my Dad believed: “If a man made it, I can fix it.” And, he did. Time, after time, he accomplished the impossible.

Boundaries: Those are the fine lines defining our growth, to date. They are the demarcation between where we end and another begins. Self-respect runs unabated within; Respect is generously offered to those without. Mutually beneficial transactions occur at the border.

Commitment: Choosing one and foregoing all others is the first step to moving forward. Forsaking the un-chosen focuses all energy on the, one, most important, choice. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.

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In our human condition, we will make MISTAKEs. This is the ultimate Question: aM I Seeking To Ask (and) Knock Effectively? Intelligent people are always ready to learn; their ears are open for Knowledge. To acquire Wisdom is to love oneself; people who cherish Understanding will prosper.

Life is simply an exercise in practice techniques: Amateurs practice until they get it right; Masters practice until they can’t get it wrong.

All we do begins with a, creative, thought!

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Three-E Formula

Do ItGreater than a Magic Wand to wave at the hand of fate, this is E-ven better.

This is E times 3.

Enlighten

Empower

Encourage

The prefix forming verbs of “En” and “Em” are expressions of action and doing, defined as:

To put into;
To go into;
To cover with;
To provide with;
To cause to be;
Thoroughly

In the simplest of terms — Just Do It.

Some may ask, “Do, what?”

Let’s examine the Three E words above — Enlighten, Empower, and Encourage.

Do ~ Light
Do ~ Power
Do ~ Courage

The smallest speck of light destroys darkness. To clearly see the next step on our journey of life, we focus to Do what is right, just and fair.

Whether we think we can, or can’t, we’re right. We have the freedom to choose whether, or not, we use willpower to Do what is right, just, and fair.

The strength to change the things we can and to forgive impossible people requires the fortitude — always — to Do what is right, just, and fair.

Some might ask, “Where’s the magic in that?”

To quote:

Their purpose is to teach people wisdom and discipline,

To help them understand the insights of the wise.

Their purpose is to teach people to live disciplined and successful lives,

To help them do what is right, just, and fair.

The catalyst for being of service requires the components of Wisdom, Discipline, and Understanding. The result is a successful life of Doing what is Right, Just, and Fair.

Knowing + Doing = Building Dynamic Relationships

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The ‘ould Conspiracy

Thinking One CanThinking One Can

A little girl commented, “Dad you seem to know which people are big-hearted, good-hearted, and even those who have a heart of gold. How can I know?” His answer, “Just listen to what they say.”

It is true. From the abundance of the heart, we speak.

While the words big, good, and gold are subject to the foibles of semantics, the ‘ould words are definitive in their usage and meaning. When we hear them, a judgment is being made. The words are: Could, Should, and Would.

In fact, there are three degrees of judgment:

  • Of Others
  • Of Ourselves
  • Of Providence

Human nature loves to find the faults in others. If we think our discomfort is caused by another person, then our response becomes, almost, a religious experience. Magically, we are shrouded with the belief that, somehow, we are absolved from any responsibility for the situation. So, when the ‘ould words are used in judgment of what someone else could, should, and would do, I think of the adage, “We get what we allow.”

Less egregious, although just as damaging, is when the ‘ould words are used by us against ourselves. As Pogo acknowledged, “I have seen the enemy and he is us.” In combination with “I could have …”, “I should have …”, and “I would have …”, listen for how many times the individual saying those things, also utters the little word “Try”.

While the four-letter word “Can’t” is clear in communicating inaction, the three-letter word “Try” is sinister. At best it is misdirection and at worst it is manipulative.

As proof to this premise, do this exercise with me. Take a pen into your hand. Now, stretch your arm straight out, parallel with the floor, and “try” to drop the pen. One of two things will happen: You will either hold onto the pen; or, you will drop it.  No try to it.  It is a matter of will. You either don’t; or, you do.

The final and only legitimate usage of the ‘ould words is when we’re communicating the contrast of our frailties to the mysteries of Providence.

For example, this is a favorite explanation of Commitment:

Until one is committed
There is hesitancy, the chance to draw back,
Always ineffectiveness.
Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation),
There is one elementary truth,
The ignorance of which kills countless ideas
And splendid plans:
That the moment one definitely commits oneself,
Then Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one
That would never otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision
Raising in one’s favor all manner
Of unforeseen incidents and meetings
And material assistance,
Which no person could have dreamt
Would have come their way. 

I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.

While temptation is strong to find all the reasons why we couldn’t, shouldn’t, or wouldn’t do something, there really is no excuse. Ours is not to judge; ours is to do!

My favorite childhood book was The Little Engine That Could. It is a story about optimism and hard work. The underlying theme is of a stranded train that is unable to find an engine willing to take it over a mountain to its destination. Only the little blue engine is willing. While repeating the mantra “I think I can, I think I can …”, it overcomes a seemingly impossible task.

Whether we think we can’t, or think we can, that is what we will do.

All We Do Begins With A Thought!

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Love Dimensions

Love Birds

 

By applying The Golden Rule, this builder finds the temple of love to measure “3×5”. Three words, five letters apiece, all beginning with “S” and in alphabetical order: Serve, Share, Smile.

 

Serve: I believe in the philosophy that greatness is achieved by serving. First we learn, then we teach; the more we teach, the more we learn. The greatest love is that which is given.

Share: I believe in the merit of mirrors and teeter-totters. What we give is what we receive. If an equal is on board with us, fun is guaranteed. The relationship will be mirrored and balanced.

Smile: I believe in the principle of right here, right now, it’s great to be alive. Whatever situation we find ourselves, let’s make the best of it. Each of us is as happy as we choose to be.

While the “3×5” gives height and width to each day, the dimension of depth is added by YOU!

One who believes in the magic and power of Communication. More than a belief, yours is a demonstration of verbal songs of expression, written notes of thought, perceptive touches of connection, facial expressions of emotion, the whole encyclopedia of body language, and maybe, even, telepathic vibrations of positive intent, all, offered with a spirit of love.

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Power Of One

We have all witnessed the spectacle of someone in front of a crowd banging on their drum, making noise and giving the appearance of a parade, when in reality, they were being run out of town. Those who once followed are now in pursuit! The scene captures the essence of human nature: we’re constantly moving toward something.

The ancient scholars gave instruction that we cannot serve two masters. We will love one and hate the other. The one who hung one sun and one moon in the sky of our unique earth, as a reminder that there is one designer and master builder, is known simply as “I Am.” Acknowledging that higher power allows us, as an instrument of His goodness, to boldly proclaim, “I’m the leader of one and boss of me.”

At the beginning of each new day is a reminder of our limitations, as we subject ourselves to the law of gravity and put on our pants, one leg at a time. Then, with a knee bent, we remember the one great commandment, “Love the Lord with all your heart, soul, mind and strength.” And, one similar, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

A working definition of love might be, “Love is patient, Love is kind, It rejoices with the truth, Always protects, Always trusts, Always hopes, Always perseveres.” The result of that effort will always be growth in ourselves and others. The secret mantra is, “If It Is To Be, It Is Up To Me.” It is impossible to drag (or, ride on the coat-tails of) anyone else to any destination.

In the course of our journey, we will discover “one more” as the difference between failure and success. Our greatest success comes when we commit to a singular focus: able and willing to give our all for that one choice. We can choose to make the world better for days by planting flowers; we can improve it for years by planting trees; and, we can change it forever by planting ideals in the minds of those we touch.

From one tiny seed grows much. Whether a bountiful garden, productive orchard, or fruitful life, it all begins with a single thought. Individually, we have the right to choose. More than a right, it is a responsibility. As students of life, we begin with a choice of teachers, coaches, mentors, and heroes. At some point in our growth, we become the teacher and accept the mantle of leadership to guide another on the path they have chosen.

To do so, we become their servant. As a shepherd cares for a flock, we lead by gentle nudges. It is then we understand the story of twelve guys debating among themselves who would be the greatest and the Master replied, “Whoever wants to be first must take last place and be the servant of everyone else.”

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.

Boldness has power, genius, and magic in it.

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