Two words, six letters each, exactly opposite in meaning and world view: Victim and Victor.
All individuals on the face of the earth are in one camp, or the other — There is no DMZ, or middle ground.
Every person has made a choice to be, exactly, where they find themselves at this very moment.
We all have a story to tell.
And, we do tell it so well.
This last week was interesting. Personally, I was engaged in a battle for the future. Right in the middle of the whole dang show was lunch with someone, who is victim, wouldn’t you know — anchored to the past, miserable in the present, and morose about the future.
Since fire-breathing dragon stories are more interesting than melancholy tirades, this is my story about conquest and victory.
After a year of experimenting with secure Client File Portals for the mutual benefit of my stakeholders, there was an increasing uneasiness about the Hosting Service that I had chosen. The portals were fully functional, my Clients were successfully using them, and I was comfortable in the routine.
(Alert — possible misspelling of routine. Maybe, r-u-t? And, the definition of rut: a grave with the ends kicked out.)
Real danger? Or, just the ever vigilant, vivid, imagination of a Warrior?
All we do begins with a thought.
I was thinking, “There must be a better way.”
In fact, each day, each of us has a choice: Grow, or Die. Remember, there is no DMZ — or, safe middle ground.
I was ready to move forward.
Some of the many benefits of a Client File Portal (personal vault in The Clouds) is 24/7 access to digital Documents — and, the ability to provide copies of files, to stakeholders with a vested interest in building mutually beneficial dynamic relationships.
The only constant in life is change. Over the last twelve months, ShareFile has become a robust service provider of file sharing and portals. By clicking on the hyperlink above, access to their website provides a better understanding of features and support.
Ready and Committed are two, very, different things. Although ready, I was not, yet, committed to move forward. This is the introduction to the next important step on our journey to victory. We need to properly plan and meticulously prepare.
Thought without action is as worthless as a dream without a plan — a blueprint, if you will. Researching viable options and studying the technological landscape was the primary focus in my quest for a better way — and, a better Client File Portal.
This is the time in every dragon-slaying story where the weak may want to seek protection. The battle scenes are for mature audiences, only. The most fertile ground and coveted piece of real estate is between our ears. For me, in that moment, that’s where this war was being waged.
I had invested a year of my life establishing functional, yet primitive, Client File Portals for my stakeholders. I wanted to enjoy the dividends from that investment. What would everyone think, if I changed my mind? And, therein was the answer — moving forward was the right thing to do.
Yet, the enemy persisted. The cost of the old way was less than the price of the new, uncertain, and unknown future way. What if I ‘failed’, again? And, therein was the answer — failure in my earlier choice had resulted in a valuable education and experience.
That darn dragon refused to go down! He charged at me, again. This time, he plucked at the heart-strings — by camouflaging his attack with my favorite words, “Never let loyalty and kindness leave you. Tie them around your neck as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart.”
That monster of a dragon was about to die.
Deep within the heart of every victor is a burning desire, to serve. They have asked this question of themselves, “What is the passion at the core of everything I do?”
Picture a vibrant, radiant, pulsating, source of energy within the Warrior. The mechanical, physical, heart is warmly surrounded by a glowing and dynamic membrane of higher power. Love is one name given to the unexplainable — it is a powerful force for doing good.
My love — of those I serve — was the strength behind the final thrust of my sword into the beast.
I was committed to move forward.
Until one is committed,
There is hesitancy, the chance to draw back,
Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation),
There is one elementary truth,
The ignorance of which kills countless ideas
And splendid plans:
That the moment one definitely commits oneself,
Then providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one
That would not otherwise have occurred.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision,
Raising in one’s favor all manner
Of unforeseen incidents and meetings
And material assistance,
Which no person could have dreamt
Would have come their way.
I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:
Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, magic, and power in it.
Begin it now.
—W. H. Murray, The Scottish Himalayan Expedition
Although illuminated by the warm glow of first love, the beginning of anything is ugly. For builders, it’s the serious business of excavating a hole in the ground and the hard work of pouring a solid foundation. In the realm of technology, it’s the learning of a new foreign language and carefully navigating into uncharted domains.
Although encouraged by early results, the middle of anything is a slog. Begin, and begin again — one step in front of the other. The safe shore of our launch has long passed from view and the destination is many days away. One Client File Portal after another will be established and made available to those I serve — the best Clients (and Friends) — those who give so much to me.
Sometime, in the near future, a celebration beckons. All of the new vaults in The Clouds will be available, as another mutually beneficial tool, with which to build dynamic relationships. The victory will be a time of jubilee, because it will provide the opportunity for other new beginnings — yet, unseen.
In stark contrast to the jubilation of a victor was the sullenness of my lunch-time partner, The Victim. The story I heard was one of the entire world using and abusing them. Granted, the hand of fate deals its nasty blows to all of us, from time to time. Curious, though, I asked, “Where were you — and, what were you thinking and doing through all of this?”
The victim’s response (slightly paraphrased), “I was right there playing the role of saintly martyr.” Seemed fitting for me to say, “We get what we allow.” Lunch was over.
Waiting for me, on the other side of the battle with my fire-breathing dragon, were two, new, wonderful relationships.
On my left side is Christopher Doll, a ShareFile sales executive, who graciously accepted my offer to make a GoToAssist remote connection with him. We played, we laughed, and I purchased. On my right side is Kelley Figg, a ShareFile account manager, extraordinaire — she is patient beyond belief, generous at the core, and a caring professional.
Two words, six letters each, exactly opposite in meaning and world view: Victim and Victor. All individuals on the face of the earth are in one camp, or the other. There is no DMZ, or middle ground. Each person makes a choice to be, exactly, where they find themselves at this very moment.
As for me, I choose victory.