Naivety contains the seeds for discovery and destruction.
As to which we will nurture? That choice is within our control.
To fall under the influence and control of another person is dangerous. A lack of worldly experience and understanding can result in harm, to ourselves and others. Good judgment comes from experience — experience comes from bad judgment. Discretion is the better part of valor.
Yet, these are the naive qualities all children enjoy — and, we, older kids, can continue to practice:
- Free from guile, cunning, or sham
- Absence of complexity, artifice, or pretentiousness
- Childlike directness, simplicity, and innocence
- Spontaneity and freedom from self-consciousness
- Sincerity and unaffected simplicity
- Absence of insidious or treacherous cunning
As we practice the pure qualities of naivety, there is one, very, large caveat: Beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing. In other words, the Machiavellians, Narcissists, Borderlines, Histrionics, and Manipulators do not subscribe to a mutually beneficial Code of Honor.
To combat the scurrilous tactics of these Con Artists, only one weapon is required: The Truth.
Before we engage in daily interaction with the Disturbed Characters, the truth empowers us to be free.
- Our conscience is free from regret and blame.
- We boldly step through the doors of new opportunity.
- The benefit of our actions lifts the spirits of all in our care.
From the book, Who’s Pulling Your Strings?, by Harriet B Braiker, PhD, comes this powerful observation:
Think of direct, clear communication — especially when it is about the manipulation itself — as the psychological equivalent to holding up a cross to a vampire. Most manipulators recoil in the face of being “busted,” and the air goes out of the pressure they are trying to create just as easily as it escapes a punctured balloon.
Direct, clear communication is just another way of making reference to: The Truth.
From the sages of old is this simple request: “I beg two favors from you; let me have them before I die. First, help me never to tell a lie. Second, give me neither poverty nor riches!”
The truth will set us free.