One of two things is guaranteed to happen: Immediate animation, as the person begins to share that passion with you. Or, a deer-in-the-headlights look, with a really long, awkward, pause, as the individual painfully looks for a way of escape.
Escape from what — their own life?! All we want is to understand what makes them tick — that which empowers them to take a licking and keep on ticking.
Last week, I was the beneficiary of these questions from a fine young man:
- How do you set boundaries?
- How do you keep your boundaries from being a box that you live in and one that keeps you from fulfilling your potential?
His questions came several days after our conversation, which included the question, “What is the passion at the core of everything you do?” In addition to his questions, above, he had provided an answer to my original question, by responding with, “I do not know.”
Do you, know?
Can each of us answer these questions?
Why do I exist?
How can I make a difference in the lives of others?
What is the appropriate way for delivering the very best to the world?
For those who know (and, those who don’t) the answer is, “Become wonderful conduits — for the goodness from above, to flow through us, for the benefit of others.”
You know — conduit: a hollow tube for the transference and protection of something valuable.
Those without a connection to the source of goodness and void of a desire to share are, simply, an empty tube. In other words, they have no purpose and worthless boundaries. Tap on them and they ring hollow. Squeeze them and they collapse into a wrinkled mess.
Yet, imagine conduit connected to streams of living waters — bubbling, high-pressured, and dynamic at the source. At the destination are beneficiaries eagerly waiting to be served.
Service — now, that’s a novel idea — Bended knee, Caring attitude, Humble heart, Patient spirit, Kind mind, Generous soul, and Helping hands. Yes, please.
So, it’s really quite simple to discover the Passion at the core.
Hint: It comes from the Source above.
As for boundaries, the secret is to say, “Yes, please,” to everything that makes us better conduits — and, “No, thanks,” to everything else.
In fact, we have complete freedom to manage our boundaries. Boundaries are, simply, the outside diameter dimensions of our conduit. Individually, we have the right and responsibility to expand them for the benefit of those in our sphere of influence.
In the physical realm of steel conduit, expansion requires cutting, grinding, torching, bending, and welding new pieces into what already exists, to make the core larger. In the emotional, mental, and spiritual realms, the process will feel about the same.
If we have a passion for what flows through us, we are constantly pushing at the boundaries of the Why, How, and What of our existence. In fact, we will be busily learning and growing to become, better, “Conduits — for the goodness from above, to flow through us, for the benefit of others.”